双语美文 | 自己的伤口只有靠自己才能愈合

How to Face Frustrations?

怎样面对失意
 

When you are upset and frustrated, who do you like to be with?

当你受挫失意的时候，你喜欢跟谁在一起?

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Some of my friends can stand firm when they are heavily down their luck and in a terrible fix. They choose to mix with successful people who have got all the smiles of fortune. By doing so they want to be encouraged into pulling themselves together. They are able to keep calm no matter how arrogant and overbearing those people are.

有些朋友在极不走运或处在非常困难的时候，能够坚定不移。他们喜欢和成功人士交往，这些人好运连连，春风得意。他们这样做，是想受到鼓励，使自己振作起来。无论这些人多么高傲蛮横，他们总能保持镇静。

I admire them for what they have done, though I am not equal to it. When I'm down and out I like to be with those also in distress, for we are in the same boat having sympathy for each other. They understand how I feel about it and we have a lot to talk, to exchange advice and to encourage one another.

他们的所为使我很钦佩，但我自己做不到。当我一败涂地的时候，我喜欢跟同样身处困境的人在一起，因为我们是同一条船上的人，互相同情。他们懂得我的感受，我们有许多共同语言，互相交流想法，互相鼓励。

But most likely what I'll do in my frustration is to sit alone by myself. I won't care if I am ignored by all the world. Neither will I pay any attention to others. What I do care is to face myself, for my wound can be healed only by myself. Whether it is to cry my eyes out, to have a painful self-examination, or to give myself up to grief without food or sleep for three days on end, I know I have to get myself through the misery.

但是在我失意时最可能做的事情是一人独坐。我不介意这个世界都忽略了我，我也不关注别的人。我所在乎的是面对自己，因为自己的伤口只有靠自己才能愈合。无论是痛哭流涕，或痛苦地自我检讨，或者一连三天不吃不睡沉浸在哀伤之中，我知道自己必须从痛苦中走出来。

One has to get up where he falls—everyone knows that. So it's no use for anybody to come along with advice trying to comfort me. It requires my own efforts to get fully realized of what the failure means to me and to draw lessons from it.

人们必须在摔倒的地方爬起来--谁都知道该这样做。所以没有必要让任何人过来劝我，来安慰我。我需要的是自己努力，充分意识到失败对我意味着什么，从中吸取教训。

When I meet a terrible rebuff, I'll beat a hasty retreat. I'll never stay there to stick to my guns, or try to stage a comeback. Why should I? Return to the same place may bring double pressure to bear on me. It is preferable to have a change of environment, for a different situation can mean a turn of fortune.

当我碰了可怕的钉子的时候，我将匆忙撤离。我决不待在那儿固执己见，或者试图卷土重来。为什么我该这么做?回到原地可能给我带来双重压力。更可取的是改变环境，因为不同的情况可能意味着命运的转机。

To put it frankly, it is hard for a frustrated person to get along with others. But if one can solve the problem of dealing with oneself, and get over all the difficulties, one will find it rather easy to start all over again.

坦率地说，失意的人要和别人相处很难。但是如果人们能够解决面对自己、审视自己的问题，克服所有的困难，就会发现从头做起很容易。